On the day when you’re tired of life.

She is tired of running after making money, he is tired of running after relationships, tired of running after competitions and then fell down and realised that they couldn’t go on any more. Seen and bearing an overwhelming burden of troubles and responsibility. They have already seen it all, can do it all and want nothing except to rest in peace.

And then they suddenly start to see life in a different way. It often happens against a background of too much work, of feeling completely run-down and experiencing ridiculous levels of stress. When you’ve ended up in a hospital, you end up understand a thing or two about life.

Tired people, bit by bit, are the ones who manage to change everything, and change themselves. They learn to live again, managing to subjugate their circumstances to themselves, their own needs and requirements, their desires, and their biological clock. They take full control of their life by not trusting the moods and decisions of their employers. They they take up watercolour painting and read lots of books; they learn to cook; they go for walks in a park and play with their kids. They learn how to just breathe again, having understood that having enough money for just one handbag, as it turns out, is quite enough.

They learn to live here and now, enjoying every minute.

This is why for quite a long time already we’ve had such terms as ’downshifting’ and anti-consumerist societies; this is why freelancing and spending winters in huts in India is so popular.

Shallow Success

Success. This definition of it, the whole idea of it, is arguably one of the biggest lies we ever get told in our lives.

None of this stuff is important.

But the only people who can realise it are the people who are deeply tired of life, for whom nothing matters as much as peace of mind. The chance to not have to run anywhere, not to prove anything to anybody. To live, rather than just survive till the end.

Avoid the “I Just Need To Work Harder” Trap

If you tend to react to stress, struggling, or exhaustion by attempting to just work harder, try slowing down instead.

As above, you’re likely already trying your best. Telling yourself that the answer to solving your problems is just working harder isn’t likely to be an accurate thought.

The trap here is that by telling yourself the problem is not working hard enough, you’re likely to close yourself off to trying new ways of coping. An example I see in my practice all the time is people who respond to overeating by telling themselves they just need to try harder to stick to their diet next time. By attributing the problem to not trying hard enough, they try to solve it throughwillpower rather than seeking other strategies.

 

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Humor Therapy for Cancer

Many of us feel awkward in joking in front of terminally ill patients. Many may even consider it inappropriate or insensitive. However, it has been known scientifically that the best thing you can do to your friends is to provide a humorous environment and let them “forget” about their condition. Sitting and feeling sorry for their condition will not help them much.

Dr. Michael B. Van Scoy-Morsher, an oncologist in California says that “one characteristic of the cancer patient who does well is the ability to often put cancer in the background for periods of time.

In his book “Intoxicated by My Illness,” Anatole Broyard wrote aboutthe final months of his life after he was diagnosed with prostate cancer. He stated that “Illness is primarily a drama, and it should be possible to enjoy it as well as to suffer it. . . . . Illness,” after all, “is not all tragedy. Much of it is funny.”

Humor Therapy

A Healthy Dose of Laughter

I read that a child laughs 400 times a day on the average, while an adult laughs only 15 times each day. Which is puzzling since laughter feels so good and is so good for us!

You may know the benefits of laughter on the mind and spirit, but are you aware of how much a good laugh can help you physically? Norman Cousins used to say that laughter is so bene­ficial for your body that it is like “inner jog­ging.”

Mayo Clinic (Mayo Clinic Health Letter, March 1993) reports that laughter aids breathing by disrupting your normal respiration pattern and in­creasing your breathing rate. It can even help clear mucus from your lungs.

Laughter is also good for your heart. It in­creases circulation and improves the delivery of oxygen and nutrients to tissues throughout your body.

A good laugh helps your immune system fight off colds, flu and sinus problems by increas­ing the concentration of immunoglobulin A in your sa­liva. And it may help control pain by rais­ing the levels of certain brain chemicals (endorphins).

Furthermore, it is a natural stress reliever. Have you ever laughed so hard that you doubled over, fell off your chair, spit out your food or wet your pants? You cannot maintain muscle tension when you are laughing!

The good news is that you are allowed more than 15 laughs a day! Go ahead and double the dose and make it 30 times today. (You may begin to no­tice immediate improvement in your relationships!) Then double it again! You are bound to feel better, you will cope with problems more effectively and people will enjoy being around you.

Laughter: it’s just good medicine :))))

 

Lunar energy pranayama or Chandra Bhedi pranayama

Chandra bhedi – Beat the heat

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This pranayama is called Chandra bhedi as its practice stimulates the nerves controlled by the moon. Chandra is the moon. Bhedana means passing through. In Chandra Bhedana Pranayama inhalation is done through the left nostril and exhale through the right.

It is said that energy passes through Ida (Chandra) Nadi on the inhalation and through Pingala or Surya Nadi on the exhalation. These are larger nadis that hold the balance of magnetism and energy created by the sun and moon. They travel from the base of the spine to the point between the eyebrows.

Preparation

Read general guidelines for pranayama before starting chandra bhedi pranayama.

  • Sit on your favourite seating position Asana (Padma asana,Vajra asana or Sukh asana) in a well ventilated room free from any distractions. Keep the waist, back, neck and spine erect. For the beginners, you can sit on a chair or sit cross legged on the yoga…

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Lunar energy pranayama or Chandra Bhedi pranayama

Featured Image -- 4702This pranayama is called Chandra bhedi as its practice stimulates the nerves controlled by the moon. Chandra is the moon. Bhedana means passing through. In Chandra Bhedana Pranayama inhalation is done through the left nostril and exhale through the right.

It is said that energy passes through Ida (Chandra) Nadi on the inhalation and through Pingala or Surya Nadi on the exhalation. These are larger nadis that hold the balance of magnetism and energy created by the sun and moon. They travel from the base of the spine to the point between the eyebrows.

Preparation

Read general guidelines for pranayama before starting chandra bhedi pranayama.

  • Sit on your favourite seating position Asana (Padma asana,Vajra asana or Sukh asana) in a well ventilated room free from any distractions. Keep the waist, back, neck and spine erect. For the beginners, you can sit on a chair or sit cross legged on the yoga mat/ carpet keeping your back, neck and spine erect. For very weak people, lie down in supine position similar to shava asana. Inhaling and exhaling should be slow and it should not make noise. Gradually increase the time for inhalation and exhalation. Keep the breathing exercise easy and enjoy it. Do as per your potential, do not tax your body. Any time you feel discomfort, discontinue and take rest.
  • For closing the right nostril, it should be pressed with thumb of right hand. For closing the left right nostril, it should be pressed with ring finger of right hand. Keep the other hand on your knee(gyana mudra or palms open)
  • Alternate method. For closing the right nostril, it should be pressed with thumb of right hand. For closing the left right nostril, it should be pressed with ring finger of right hand.
  • Initially your hands will get tired easily, so you can use either of the hands. One hand gets tired , use other hand.

Steps For Chandrabhedi Pranayama

  • Find a comfortable seated position. Gently exhale all of the air from the lungs.
  • Stage 1 – Inhale slowly through the left nostril and fill up your lungs to maximum capacity and breathe out through the right nostril.
  • Stage 2 – Breathe in though the left nostril. Hold after inhalation. The first few times hold for a few seconds. Gradually increase the duration of the retention. Exhale out through the right nostril. Allow the exhalation to be longer than the inhalation. (When you have gained sufficient practice for 2-3 months, practice retention of breath. Keep the ratio of time taken for inhalation, retention of breath and exhalation as (1:4:2). For starters, do not hold breath, keep the ratio of inhalation-exhalation as (1:2).
  • Stage 3 – If we call this one set. Repeat five sets and gradually increase to ten sets.

Benefits

  • Reduces the flow of gall.
  • These Breathing Techniques or Pranayamas are designed to allow the free flow of energy in the body and to purify the body’s energy channels called nadis.
  • The practice of Pranayama also ensures that every cell in the body receives oxygen and nutrients.
  • Calm your brain and reduces body heat.
  • Cures heart burn and laziness.

Caution

* This pranayama should not be done during winters.

** Do not hold breath initially for 2- 3 months practice only inhalation and exhalation). Do not hold breath at all if you are suffering from heart disease, asthama.

** Exhale through the right nostril slowly, rhythmically.

Living in a suicidal habitat

“I want to save everyone from pain, depression, loneliness and heartache, But how can I do if I myself in Pain?” – Unknown 70b9a34362e40a6313aeb490b07a578a

We keep denying the contrast of life and living in blur all of shadow of happiness and sorrows, pain, disguise, trauma, depression and deprivation. Everyday news of  suicides of farmers in Telnagana, India is grim. I started feeling sad that despite our country is so capable and blessed with abundant natural resources farmers had to take extreme decision of taking their own life, it was no other way left for them than to commit suicide. Yes, this time also the culprit is government. It is the poverty, loan system for farmers which not helped in the time of drought and other uncertainty of weather. 


But, what happened to those who has no such extreme reasons to commit suicide? India, many western society’s dream holy destination, who come every year to learn it’s divinity and surpass amongst the whole world how their life changed after visiting rural India, Dharamshala, after participation in yoga retreat in Rishikesh. It’s a quite a loathsome to know that the official estimates of number of Indians take their lives annually as many as 200,000. Almost half of the suicides committed in this country is motivated by family and health reasons.


It’s not surprising to see growing suicide rates in the world are mostly amongst Asian and African countries. while most of the countries with high-suicide rates are daunting cases of poverty and unemployment. This includes, Russia, Turkmenistan, South Sudan, Burundi, Kazakhstan, Nepal, United Republic Of Tanzania, Mozambique, Suriname, Lithuania, Sri Lanka, South Korea, Democratic republic of Korea, Guyana, Comoros, Sudan.Bhutan, Zimbabwe, Belarus,Japan, Hungary, Uganda are just to name it.


But, Wait!!!! What is paradox of developed countries and it’s love for the suicide? Countries in the developed world must have everything good for them. Thier high-income, good health care, Insurance policies, least corruption, access to modern technology and in general higher standard of living look so perfect. Look at the Scandinavian countries. Are not they have the world’s best facilities? Are not they are the happiest people on this earth? More Americans now die more of suicide than in car accident. Ireland has a relatively high rate which is situated within the 18-20 per 100,000 range, though far lower than Baltic countries.


This is ironic, contradiction, paradox and gloomy that we human are stretching ourselves beyond our capacity. Where rich countries and the people are more privileged on the contrary they demand more from life, sensitive to very minute problems and suffer from depression quite often and which leads to more committing of suicides. Where as Unprivileged countries and people suffer being poor, ill and suffocated. 


But, we are comparing happiness of others with us and where the most failures happen. We, the human can be each other’s  strength, where one’s weaknesses can be other’s strength. We can support each country’s weaknesses and offer what other country’s people got to best to offer  and. It can happen without blaming the government anymore. We can create our own society of self-sufficiency. We can help each other emotionally, economically and Intellectually.