Restlessness

Restlessness – that suffering from everday lethal

I feel like “something more” to do with my careers and my  life. These constant fear makes me a little sad and maybe resentful. Is this you too?

The restlessness, shallowness, sadness and resentment can’t be blamed on someone else, friends, family or any unwelcomed situations. You feel these emotions because your choices have left you disconnected with yourself. Making life choices based on what eases your fears instead of what fulfils you is an act of self-denial. You miss your passionate, joyful, grateful self.

Our minds are filled with the vast possibilities the world has to offer, and technology makes us feel that all these possibilities are just within our reach. But the realities of our lives really haven’t changed much. Many aspects of our lives have sped up and become easier, but lots of things haven’t. We can instantly chat with our friend in South Africa, but we’re no closer to instantly teleporting there. Tons of information is available on the web but it still takes just as long as it ever did to read and absorb it. We still need to get jobs and pay rent and work at our relationships.

Cure:

#Expectations (Being real): Every man must have lofty aims and ambitions. But he must temper his expectations with a dose of reality. Not all of us are going to be rich and famous. We need to honestly assess what we’re really capable of.

#Too many informations : Restlessness is an indication that your brain is on an over-drive, in that it has gained a lot of undue momentum. Sometimes I actually don’t like browsing a bookstore because there are so many books, and I can get to feeling overwhelmed by it. That goes with internet informations, too many endorsements etc.

#Small Steps : Once you understand what can do and what you want do, you can start taking steps toward those things. You have to just choose one thing at a time to tackle. Making small, steady victories will cure your restlessness. Your mind simply wants to feel as if you are moving forward. So make that first step.

#Avoiding Deluded Ideas: You can see restless behavior in people who are holding on to deluded ideas about life, where they are waiting for that perfect “something” to happen which they think will complete them. Honestly,  there no such “perfect time or thing”. We might had many moments in recent past, for which we forgot to count the blessings!

Other strategies to try include:

  • Mantra Meditation : Mantra meditation is a useful tool for reducing stressful thoughts and controlling breathing. Placing yourself in that type of relaxed environment can have a powerful effect on anxiety.
  • Yelling : Sometimes, all you need is a good yell. If no one is around you and you’re in a place where no one will hear you, try yelling as loud as you can. Loud yelling releases some of that pent up energy.
  • Laughing : Finally, if you can find anything to make you laugh, that can be a big help. Laughter can be very difficult when you’re suffering with agitation, but if there is anything in your life that consistently makes you laugh, focus on it. Laughter, like yelling, reduces some of that nervous energy and puts your mind on something much more positive.
  • Being Creative : Being creative is a beautiful way to express ourselves positively, paving the way to expressing ourselves to the world in a positive way, making positive changes in our own lives effects actions we bring out to the world.
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How Swami Vivekanand Shaped the World Culture and Ethos

When the entire world was encapsulated with physical pleasures and materialistic race of leading a luxurious life, they needed someone to guide them to know real meaning of leading life. Hindu spirituality deals with body, mind and soul. Swami Vivekanand introduced world with the concept of oneness, soul and sole reason of taking birth as humans. The new concept thrilled the people across the globe and they got to know true realms of life through meditation and spiritual science of Hinduism.

Swami Vivekananda’s contributions in shaping the world culture is acknowledged by scholars of several countries.

Making an objective assessment of Swami Vivekananda’s contributions to world culture, the eminent British historian A L Basham stated that “in centuries to come, he will be remembered as one of the main moulders of the modern world…”

Swami Vivekananda, known in his pre-monastic life as Narendra Nath Datta, was born in an affluent family in Kolkata on 12 January 1863. His father, Vishwanath Datta, was a successful attorney with interests in a wide range of subjects, and his mother, Bhuvaneshwari Devi, was endowed with deep devotion, strong character and other qualities. A precocious boy, Narendra excelled in music, gymnastics and studies. By the time he graduated from Calcutta University, he had acquired a vast knowledge of different subjects, especially Western philosophy and history. Born with a yogic temperament, he used to practise meditation even from his boyhood, and was a and was associated with Brahmo Movement for some time.

Vivekananda’s contributions to world culture 
Making an objective assessment of Swami Vivekananda’s contributions to world culture, the eminent British historian A L Basham stated that “in centuries to come, he will be remembered as one of the main moulders of the modern world…” Some of the main contributions that Swamiji made to the modern world are mentioned below:

1. New Understanding of Religion: One of the most significant contributions of Swami Vivekananda to the modern world is his interpretation of religion as a universal experience of transcendent Reality, common to all humanity. Swamiji met the challenge of modern science by showing that religion is as scientific as science itself; religion is the ‘science of consciousness’. As such, religion and science are not contradictory to each other but are complementary.
This universal conception frees religion from the hold of superstitions, dogmatism, priestcraft and intolerance, and makes religion the highest and noblest pursuit – the pursuit of supreme Freedom, supreme Knowledge, supreme Happiness.

2. New View of Man: Vivekananda’s concept of ‘potential divinity of the soul’ gives a new, ennobling concept of man. The present age is the age of humanism which holds that man should be the chief concern and centre of all activities and thinking. Through science and technology man has attained great prosperity and power, and modern methods of communication and travel have converted human society into a ‘global village’. But the degradation of man has also been going on apace, as witnessed by the enormous increase in broken homes, immorality, violence, crime, etc. in modern society. Vivekananda’s concept of potential divinity of the soul prevents this degradation, divinizes human relationships, and makes life meaningful and worth living. Swamiji has laid the foundation for ‘spiritual humanism’, which is manifesting itself through several neo-humanistic movements and the current interest in meditation, Zen etc all over the world.

3. New Principle of Morality and Ethics: The prevalent morality, in both individual life and social life, is mostly based on fear – fear of the police, fear of public ridicule, fear of God’s punishment, fear of Karma, and so on. The current theories of ethics also do not explain why a person should be moral and be good to others. Vivekananda has given a new theory of ethics and new principle of morality based on the intrinsic purity and oneness of the Atman. We should be pure because purity is our real nature, our true divine Self or Atman. Similarly, we should love and serve our neighbours because we are all one in the Supreme Spirit known as Paramatman or Brahman.

4. Bridge between the East and the West: Another great contribution of Swami Vivekananda was to build a bridge between Indian culture and Western culture. He did it by interpreting Hindu scriptures and philosophy and the Hindu way of life and institutions to the Western people in an idiom which they could understand. He made the Western people realize that they had to learn much from Indian spirituality for their own well-being. He showed that, in spite of her poverty and backwardness, India had a great contribution to make to world culture. In this way he was instrumental in ending India’s cultural isolation from the rest of the world. He was India’s first great cultural ambassador to the West.
On the other hand, Swamiji’s interpretation of ancient Hindu scriptures, philosophy, institutions, etc prepared the mind of Indians to accept and apply in practical life two best elements of Western culture, namely science and technology and humanism. Swamiji has taught Indians how to master Western science and technology and at the same time develop spiritually. Swamiji has also taught Indians how to adapt Western humanism (especially the ideas of individual freedom, social equality and justice and respect for women) to Indian ethos.

Trataka -Gazing Meditation Technique – Part I.

Trataka is a meditation technique which involves focusing the eyes (and, in turn, the mind) through intent but relaxed gazing. Initially, this practice is done with open eyes on an external object. It then progresses to internal practice (with eyes closed), and to gazing the void. Sometimes it’s spelled tratak or tratika.

illusion-rotating-wheelsYou’ll notice in the beginning the wheels appear to be moving. Now look at them again, but instead focus your eyes on one of the dots in the image, and be attentively vigilant that your eyes don’t move even a bit. If you manage to do that, the movements will disappear, and you will see the images for what they are. The second image will probably be more challenging.

If you really stilled your eyes for a minute or two, you might have also experienced a stillness of your mind as well. If not, it becomes evident with a bit more practice.

Conclusion: Distractions in the mind translate to micro movements in the eyes or eyelids, and vice-versa. Stillness of eyes brings stillness of mind, and vice-versa.

In all forms of trataka, you can integrate breath awareness or the repetition of a mantra if you find it helpful, although it’s not commonly taught this way.

There has been very little scientific research in this practice. So what we know in terms of its benefits is mostly all anecdotal evidence from practitioners that have devoted years to its practice. In this context, trataka is attributed to have the following benefits:

  • Improves concentration, memory, and willpower
  • Improves visualization skills
  • Improves cognitive function
  • Cures eye diseases
  • Makes the eyes stronger, clearer, and brighter
  • Helps with insomnia
  • Clears accumulated mental/emotional complexes
  • Brings suppressed thoughts to the surface
  • Increases nervous stability
  • Calms the anxious mind
  • Balances the activity in the two hemispheres of the brain
  • Improves vision in the dark (if practiced on a candle flame)
  • Soothing effect on the cranial nerves
  • Enhances self-confidence and patience

Technique I :

The first level of the practice is external gazing. The object can be almost anything, though the most popular choices are a candle flame, a black dot in a white wall, or an image with particular significance for you. Other objects used are your image in a mirror, transparent glass, a needle, a current of water, the moon in the sky, or the first minutes of the rising sun.

Set your gaze on the object, and keep it there without blinking and without letting your eyes move. After 1 to 3 minutes, your eyes will be tired or tears may be coming. Then close your eyes for a few minutes, and gaze at the afterimage of that object in your mind, if you can see it. When you are ready, open your eyes and go for another round. At the end of your practice, gently wash your eyes with cold water.

Some more practical considerations:

  • Using a candle is a often preferred because the flame has a natural attraction for many people.Fire is like magnet for the eyes and mind. Also, it leaves a very clear after-image in the mind.
  • Don’t practice external trataka for more than 10 minutes (especially the candle-gazing version), unless you have the guidance of a teacher experienced in this technique.
  • The trick in mastering trataka lies in relaxing the eyes as much as possible – otherwise your vision will soon blurr and the eyes will flicker. Don’t worry if all you can do is 10 seconds without blinking; with time you will be able to go long periods without blinking.
  • Place the object at eye level on a little talbe or support ahead of you, in a way that it’s level with your eyes. As to the distance from you, some teachers recommend an arm’s length distance (this works for me), while others recommend up to 5 feet away. Experiment and see what makes most sense.
  • Be sure you can see the object clearly, without blurr. If needed, wear your glasses.
  • If you are using a candle, make your room completely dark, and make sure there is no wind (as the flame ideally needs to be still). For other objects, dim light is preferred, and the source of light should be behind you.
  • Gaze with purpose, as if you are looking for something. Moment after moment, all you are doing is watching that point, without thinking about it.
  • Some Yoga texts mention trying to “pierce the object with your gaze”; others say that it should be a relaxed gaze. Probably a matter of experimentation to see what’s best.
  • Try not to blink, but don’t try too hard. The less thought you give to not blinking, the easiest it is.
  • Don’t strain your eyes. If you feel discomfort, then blink the eyes and continue the practice. But don’t move the pupils.
  • Don’t do trataka on a candle if you have cataracts, glaucoma, myopia, astigmatism or epilepsy.

Accepting the hard truth “The Perfect Partner Doesn’t Exist” makes life easier.

Many people dream of the perfect romance and a partner that will sweep us off of our feet and into the sunset of an eternally happy ever after. In fact, most of us are probably guilty of daydreaming about our “perfect match” sometimes. But how can it affect our real relationships when our partners don’t meet our picture perfect dreams? This doesn’t mean we should settle for someone we’re miserable with, but it does mean that we should always expect to put work into a relationship. Think of it as an artistic masterpiece; you and your partner are the tools and you have to work together to make the canvas beautiful. We can be happy and fulfilled in a relationship, but not if we expect the canvas to paint itself!

Tantric Sex : The Most Divine Sex.

Throw the words “tantric sex” at your Tinder date and they’ll likely be intrigued and intimidated. To most people, the idea of tantric sex sounds exciting, unique, and maybe more pleasurable. But only a small percentage of those people know what it actually is.

In many cultures, sex is considered merely recreational. Tantric sex is an ancient Eastern spiritual practice thought to expand consciousness and join together the polarities of masculine and feminine energy into a whole.

“Tantric sex is the ancient key to sexual pleasure and psychic power, attained through a set of rituals,” says Ashley Thirleby, author of Tantra: The Key to Sexual Powers. She goes on to explain that tantric sex can “enable you to reach new heights of sexual pleasure and … tap your sexual energy for creative use in other areas of your life … [You] are in [your] most intense state of conscious and subconscious concentration during sexual involvement. Tantra teaches ways to carry this intense focus of concentration into all areas of life.

“The rituals make it possible to enjoy sex more often, for longer periods of greater pleasure than you have ever known before. And the more frequently you have sex, the more quickly and powerfully your sexual energy will regenerate itself … “In Tantra, all faculties — physical, mental, emotional — are stimulated as strongly as possible, then controlled, to bring ever-higher pleasure.”

Other than the spiritual element, what makes tantric sex different from Western sex and separate from the sexual culture in countries like the U.S.? In her book, Thirleby describes Tantra as “free of the hypocrisy that pervades … religious orders that seek enlightenment and truth through asceticism (primarily self-denial in sex). Tantra believes the path to enlightenment is through increased sexual activity.”

Unlike the “bone-and-go” sex many of us have become accustomed to, Tantra is a deeper sexual experience that most people enjoy. All it takes is the right information and an open mind.

1. Prepare your space.

Prep the bedroom or whatever area you plan to use (living room, etc.) with lots of comfortable pillows and soft bedding. Place lots of lighted, but mostly unscented candles, around the area — safely away from anything flammable. Keep the lighting completely off or on the dimmest setting.

Place glasses of water or a light wine within reach for both you and your partner to enjoy throughout the session. You may even wish to provide light snacks to keep your energy up or to feed to each other. If you wish to scent the area, use an essential oil diffuser with a relaxing scent (lavender is a good choice).

2. Prepare yourself mentally, physically, and emotionally.

Come to the experience with an open mind and an open heart. If something makes you uncomfortable, you can skip it, but try to work through any feelings of discomfort. Those feelings usually come from a place of shame. Throughout the practice, remain playful and show curiosity to find new forms of pleasurable interaction.

Take a shower or bath, either alone or together, but try to refrain from any sexual touching. Stand facing each other and stretch however suits you to release any tension.

Dress in comfortable, nonrestrictive clothing. Underwear, lingerie or shorts, and a loose shirt work well. You can practice tantra in the nude if you prefer. But because tantra is about a slow buildup of sexual energy, it’s often helpful to start clothed.

3. Begin the process of slowly building sexual energy — the tantra.

After stretching and showering/bathing, sit in front of each other and get comfortable. You may want to sit cross-legged, or drape your legs over each other so the energy from your erotic zones is in closer proximity. You can also try the Yab-Yum position: The male partner sits down cross-legged, while the female sits down on top of his legs and faces him.

Look into each other’s eyes for a long time — the eyes are the windows to the soul. It will feel uncomfortable at first, but continue to look into each other’s eyes as long as it takes to become comfortable with the practice. There is no standard amount of time for this. Once you feel comfortable, a connection has been established. That is the goal. That is the precise sense of connection you need to enjoy tantric sex. Maintain eye contact throughout the practice.

4. Follow these steps in order.

  1. Breathe together. Slow down your breaths, and sync your inhales and exhales. Breathe in and out simultaneously while looking into each other’s eyes. If you like, you can place your hand on your partner’s chest to feel their heart beating.
  2. Once you’re breathing together and fully connected through eye contact, offer your partner some words to connect you further. Some examples include “I love __ about you” or “I feel pleasure when you __.” Be truthful in your statements and say exactly how you feel without fearing how it may be perceived. Take turns sharing statements.
  3. Very lightly and slowly move your fingertips across parts of your partner’s body to awaken the nerves and heighten sensation, maintaining eye contact. Tease your partner by brushing your fingers close to the genitals and breasts but not actually touching them.
  4. If you are not already in Yab-Yum position, move into it. Embrace and breathe together.
  5. Practice a few tantric kisses. “With your lips slightly open and touching, inhale together gently and exhale together, sharing and synchronizing the same breath.” Only then should you join your lips in a soft, slow, sensual kiss.
  6. Give each other a full-body tantric massage. The receiving partner will begin face-down. The giving partner will begin to gently massage non-erogenous zones for several minutes, then proceeding to the erogenous zones.
    You can go with a hand-only massage, or incorporate other textural tools, such as pieces of fabric, feathers, or wax. Once you’ve massaged your partner fully face-down, have them partner flip over and perform the same type of massage. A tantric massage is not about sexual stimulation, so do not try to bring your partner to orgasm.
  7. The final step of the practice can be to have sex. Alternatively, you can end the practice simply by lying together in a relaxed, blissful state. Intercourse is not the focus of tantric sex. It is just one of the possible choices on the path.
    If you do have sex, proceed slowly, and choose a position (or positions) that heightens your connection with your partner and preferably allows you to maintain eye contact. Most importantly, don’t lose the consciousness of the act. Stay focused and grounded in the moment, patiently allowing energy to build within yourselves and your connection.

You can explore the elements of tantra for as long as you like. There’s no time limit. It’s all about exploring pleasure in the way you most enjoy.

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