“It’s like fast food…Satisfies a craving, but doesn’t nourish”
An old Irish proverb says it all~
“Sex with love is one of the finest and truly great experiences in life.”
It may be thrilling, explorative, and physical.
But there is no deep spiritual soul-connecting thing underneath.
Is it Healthy?
Not everyone can adopt this point of view— particularly women. When the mind connects sex with intimacy and emotions, it becomes very hard to separate. If a person does not find sex without love fulfilling or gratifying, then it’s better to abstain from such relationships.
It’s not healthy to use sex for means other than physical gratification, like the expectation that it will blossom into love. Sex should likewise not be used for attention or as leverage in a relationship to gain something else.
If people use sex as a form of escapism, it’s no different than being addicted to other behaviors(Rape/Child sexual abuse/manipulation/Prostitution).
Using sex to avoid dealing with pain or loneliness can only bring on more of the same.
Basically, if purely sexual relationships are not personally satisfying, then it’s not healthy for you to engage in these types of relationships.
Is it Optimal?
Sex without love seems to be connected to the physical world alone, which is only a small part of what is available to us. Sex with love is experienced at the core of people, where their innate health resides – apart from the personal thoughts, insecurities and beliefs, we are all so capable of, which will only cover up, but can never obliterate our healthy core. Like the sun behind clouds – it’s always there, it just gets covered up at times; but it’s only temporary.
The hope is that those who have experienced sex with love will provide examples for those who have not. It seems to me that the more people in touch with their spiritual essence, the better the world will be.
If you’re trying to figure out what kind of person you are when it comes to sex, then here are some questions you should start asking yourself.
Q. How were you raised?
Q. What is your religious or spiritual belief?
Q. How do feel after an one night stand? Empty?
Q. What are your ratio of sex to love?
Q. Can you be in love without sex?
Q. Do you think it’s worth?
Q. How monogamous you are?