Why do they dislike me?
Do people dislike you for no reason?
Are you wondering why some people hate you?
Do you think that something is wrong with you?
Well there is certainly something wrong.
But the good news is that nothing is wrong with you.
1. You remind them of their failures
Hatred is an emotion that the mind uses to keep a person safe by keeping him away from people who might harm him. If you are successful at anything then some people might feel like losers when they see you and as a result hatred kicks in to protect them. In other words you might be hated because you are really good.
2. You remind them of what they lack
All humans want to be the best among their friends but psychologically unstable ones will hate those who are better than them at anything. You get better grades? You have more friends? You look a bit better? You have a better body? You have a better job? Then you might be hated for that.
3. You Remind them of their horrible past
In the book “The psychology of physical attraction”, explained how the associations we form can force us to judge people on the first meeting. If you reminded a person of someone who was mean to him then you might be hated. The problem here is with that person’s past & not with you.
4. Because they feel worthless
Brave people set goals and achieve them. Cowards run away from big goals then seek cheap victories to feel good about themselves. Some examples of cheap victories are gossiping, putting someone down or bullying someone. All of these actions help a person who already feels worthless to feel a bit better.
5. You remind them of themselves
One of the best defense mechanisms the mind uses to help people deny their personal flaws is to blame someone else for them. In my article Why do people criticize others i explained how people project their own flaws on others to convince themselves that they are flawless.
6. They don’t feel safe around you
People dislike the ones they don’t feel safe around. Those who suffer from anxiety or those who are too afraid to mingle with new people might dislike strangers just because they don’t feel safe around them. They prefer a small circle of friends that gives them the safety they need.
7. They think you are a threat
Sometimes a person might dislike you because he thinks that you are a threat. Cowards and weak people automatically dislike anybody who might threaten their position ( Steal their friends, get a share of the attention they are getting, get the job they are applying for …etc)
What you should do
You should only stick to the people who truly love you instead of wasting your effort trying to win the approval of those who don’t. In order not to feel lonely you need few close friends who really like you and not tens of friends who barely like you.
Finally no one is perfect. Yes you might have some flaws but in many cases people will dislike you because something is wrong with them and not with you.