“like attracts like”
Affirmations (meaning a statement said with confidence about a perceived truth) have helped thousands of people make significant changes in their lives. But they don’t always work for everyone. Why can one person have great success using this tool while another see’s no results at all?
When forming intention statements or affirmations to affect change in your life, make sure your statements include some action items on your part. Don’t simply ask the Universe for stuff or for opportunities. Say something like, “I open myself to changing this aspect of my behavior and personality in order to bring the well-being that I want into my life.” The Universe responds to flexibility, not demands
For example, the fear of failure, according to Heinz Kohut, the grandfather of psychology of the self, is often intimately connected to a childhood fear of being abandoned either physically or emotionally. When we fear failure, we tend to overestimate the risk we’re taking and imagine the worst possible scenario-the emotional equivalent of our primary caretakers deserting us. What we picture is so dreadful that we convince ourselves that we shouldn’t even try to change. We avoid opportunities for success, and then, when we fail, the unwholesome affirmation we unwittingly re-confirm is “Success just isn’t written in my stars” or “It’s just not in my karma!”